GRUNT was created by a group called PASH.TM – Additional Receipts

The following text is is from PASH.TM’s Facebook Page. It clearly shows who was behind the website GRUNT, which has just been taken down.


PASH.tm was established in 2014 after four queer trans guys got to talking at the AIDS2014 conference in Melbourne about the invisibility of guys like us (trans men into other men – trans MSM) in the Australian HIV response.

We immediately set about developing a plan and this involved:

1 – finding more trans guys to join us

2 – getting our name out there

3 – creating education campaigns

4 – writing policy position statements

5 – contributing to the evidence base

In the last five years we’ve managed to achieve all of this. It’s been incredible, rewarding and super challenging. We have all worked hard as volunteers with full time jobs and/or full time study obligations.

As we look to the horizon of 2019, some of us are now working in the very few trans-focused positions in Australia, others are working in important health roles and others are continuing their studies, expanding their art practice or getting back into it after surgery and life adventures. We are also all continuing to undertake capacity development and advocacy, often in an unpaid capacity, with a broader focus than the sexual health and HIV needs of trans MSM.

With that in mind, it’s time now for the Peer Advocacy Network for the Sexual Health of Trans Masculinities, PASH.tm, to close.

From a group of motley dudes desperately trying to be seen as the gay men we are, to being a national voice across the HIV sector. We produced, and are so proud of, GRUNT, Australia’s first sexual health campaign and resources for trans men who have sex with other men. We also produced a PrEP campaign, gathered a fierce and predominantly trans-led investigative team for Australia’s first national trans and gender diverse sexual health survey with the findings presented during the opening plenary of the biggest HIV/AIDS and sexual health conference in the country. We have presented at so many conferences and meetings over the last five years. We wrote position statements and made submissions about data collection and PrEP, we advocated successfully for the inclusion of TGD people in the national HIV strategy, and we contributed to global discussions about trans men who have sex with other men claiming our place.

There is still so much work to be done, and we will continue the fight for the health and rights of all trans people, including gender diverse and non-binary people, alongside our sisters, siblings and brothers.

Although our work on PASH.tm specifically is coming to an end, this page will stay open as an ongoing educative and networking resource for our communities.

Thank you so much for all of your support.

Thank you to our HIV positive family, to all the trans men and trans mascs from Australia and abroad who worked with us, participated and contributed to the work, to our trans sisters and trans femmes who guided us and told us to keep going, to Australian Federation of AIDS Organisations (AFAO) for supporting us, and auspicing GRUNT, to all the AIDS organisations and councils, and LGBTQ organisations (NAPWHA, ACON, Thorne Harbour Health, AIDS Action Council, Queensland AIDS Council, WA AIDS Council, Northern Territory AIDS & Hepatitis Council, SHINE SA, SAMESHNational LGBTI Health Alliance and many others) for listening to us and shifting your practice (keep going!), to the HIV and sexual health researchers who stayed curious and interested, who listened and fought hard to adopt our data collection recommendations and who advocated successfully for the research project, to our intersex allies (Intersex Human Rights Australia) who also guided us and built our understanding (we will always fight for you, as you will for us) and finally to all the HIV-vulnerable and affected populations of Australia who have met, seen and supported us. To our Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander family, our sex workers, drug users and to all the gay, bi and queer cis men who have understood why it is so important that gay, bi and queer trans men are meaningfully, adequately and accurately included.

Lou Sullivan (1951-91), pioneering gay and trans liberation activist who was the first recorded trans man to die of AIDS related illnesses once wrote, “they said I couldn’t live as a gay man, but it looks like I’m going to die like one”. We hope we’ve made a difference so that guys like us can live proudly and safely as gay men.

Love always,

Ted Cook – co-chair

Jeremy Wiggins – Jez Pez – co-chair

Aram Hosie – Hosie Bear

Laurie Hopkins

Max Mackenzie – MJ Beck

Ethan Kristy


Bullying of gay venues

Remember that time when PASH.TM banded together to bully a gay venue for trying to cater to gay men? A number of women were going to a gay spa called Wet on Wellington. WoW sent out a survey to consult with patrons. The trans lobby did NOT like it.

The text of their demand letter is below for posterity.


TW: transphobia & trans exclusionary behaviour

We heard about what has been happening with Wet on Wellington and it was alarming enough to bring us out of hibernation. We wanted to share this community statement that has been created by members of the trans masculine community in response to recent incidents at Wet on Wellington (a sex on premises venue in Melbourne).

Transphobia is never okay. We stand with those who have been hurt by the decisions of the management team at Wet on Wellington and we urge people to read and share this post. This is a time for our cis allies to step up.

This is a call to action to do two simple things:

1. Please share this post and tag Wet on Wellington to raise your concerns about their actions. We call on all people, trans and cis to speak up in support of this statement.

2. Please contact Wet on Wellington direct by writing to their management to express your concerns about the harm that is continuing to occur and request that they listen and take this statement on board. Email: info@wetonwellington.com.au

Image description: The two images are photos of the statement, black text on a white background. The statement reads as follows:

Community Statement: regarding Wet on Wellington’s recent trans-exclusionary actions

On the 6th of April, 2021 a number of members of the trans masculine community from various backgrounds came together to discuss the impact of Wet on Wellington’s discriminatory actions related to the rejection of entry of some trans masculine people, the recent creation of a transphobic survey and their subsequent decisions to manage the consequences of the survey.

Those in attendance noted that trans masculine people have a long history of attending Wet on Wellington and other similar venues around Melbourne, but that the recent actions of Wet on Wellington’s management have directly led to making a previously enjoyable experience feel unsafe and inaccessible.

As a result of discussions at that meeting, those in attendance agreed on the following statements:

1. The Wet on Wellington survey was transphobic and caused significant harm to our community. It was unethical and discriminatory and we do not accept that it was a reasonable mechanism to build an inclusive environment. We request that the survey results be destroyed and for Wet on Wellington to discontinue referring to or sharing the results.

2. We do not accept Wet on Wellington’s recent online apology, especially given the following:

a. that trans masculine people have recently been ejected from the venue and are still being refused entry on the basis of being trans;

b. trans masculine people continue to be told that it is a venue for cis men only; and

c. that the venue continues to refer to and share the survey results.

3. We do not support the establishment of Wet on Wellington’s ‘Trans and Gender Diverse Inclusion Reference Group’ because it is unsafe for trans community, was not co-created with trans community, is not consultative, is not listening to trans advocates and is not being led by trans people. We will not participate in it and we call on cis allies and other organisations to stand with us on this.

4. We require a trans-led process, that first requires Wet on Wellington to respectfully listen to and meaningfully engage with trans people.

5. We expect Wet on Wellington to issue a proper apology that has meaning and is accompanied by concrete actions to improve, including the following:

a. Wet on Wellington management and staff to undergo training in both their legal obligations (from the Victorian Equal Opportunity and Human Rights Commission) and best practice trans inclusion more broadly (from Transgender Victoria)

b. Wet on Wellington to produce and publish a formal policy on trans inclusion specifically, as well as consent and safety policies for all patrons

c. Wet on Wellington to engage in a restorative process with individuals who have been directly impacted and discriminated against, if those individuals wish to engage.

The group also expressed thanks to the cis individuals and organisations who have stood as allies with the trans community on this issue. We respectfully request that going forward all allies support and advocate for the actions detailed in this statement, and refrain from enabling or participating in any processes, groups or activities that are not aligned with the those detailed above.

We would also like to pay respect and express gratitude to Sally Goldner AM for kindly donating her time to facilitate our meeting, and to express our solidarity with trans women and trans feminine and non-binary people who often experience similar exclusion and discrimination, including the recent experiences of those seeking to access the McIver Women’s Baths in Coogee.

Signed –

• Aram Hosie (Member, Victorian LGBTIQ+ Taskforce; co-Founder PASH.tm; former Board Director Thorne Harbour Health)

• Chris Rohr

• Dee Chryssomallos (Founding Committee, FTM Shed; International Mr Transgender Leather, 2014; Awarded Special Service Award, Thorne Harbour Health, 2020)

• Felix Oni

• Florin Risley Douglas

• Gabe Curtis

• Jeremy Wiggins (Victorian LGBTI Person of the Year 2018, Churchill Fellow 2016, Co-Founder of PASH.tm)

• Jo McMahon

• Dr Julian Grace (Member, Australian Professional Association for Trans Health Education Committee)

• Lex Townsend (Queer Officer, University of Melbourne 2013 – 2015)

• Mary Fox

• N.K Madden

• Nevo Zisin (Author, Finding Nevo (2017) & The Pronoun Lowdown (2021); transgender awareness trainer)

• Ted Cook (Vice President, Australian Professional Association for Trans Health; co-Founder PASH.tm)

(A further 2 people who attended the meeting also support this statement but wish to remain anonymous.)

Wet on Wellington apologised profusely The are all about Queer women.


Camp Out – A Woke Safeguarding Nightmare

Camp Out – A Woke Safeguarding Nightmare – Queer Activists teach 13yo children to reject compulsory heterosexuality by sharing showers in the bush.

A camp for LGBTIQ children 13-17 in NSW run by youth crisis charity Twenty10.

The website reveals this to be a woke safeguarding nightmare. This camp is for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex and asexual” 13-17 year olds. In NSW the age of consent is 16. In other words, it is a camp focused on sexuality for children who cannot consent to sex.

It can’t be good to encourage children to commit to a sexual identity before they are fully sexual beings. There’s a reason we say to teenagers “it’s just a phase”. Because they go through a lot of experimental phases!

http://campout.org.au/

They say “While the health and safety of our campers – both physical, mental and emotional – are our utmost responsibility, we do not profess to be counsellors or crisis support.

Shared toileting facilities, “Anyone can use either block and there are no male/female signs on the toilets“.

Mixed sex sleeping arrangements of 6-8 people plus a crew member. The ‘crew’ must be over 21 and “have a passion for queer youth”.

Video testimonials of kids declaring that friends they met at camp were the ones who “helped me realise I was trans”.

It’s only $200 – but if that’s too much, then they would rather you go along than miss out. An image of a chalked-up agenda declares a workshop on “gender journeys” before lunch.

Queering

Try to imagine your child imagining themselves “outside of compulsory heterosexuality” and firmly rejecting the gender binary. How is this a safe place for a lesbian-attracted girl? A vulnerable 13 year old in the care of 21 year old supervisory “crew” and “fairies” (they call volunteers fairies).

Kissing

This is what’s actually concerning for me. The slippery language used in the FAQ to try and placate worried parents

“Is kissing acceptable”? No. Relief!

Sort of. Well, maybe if it isn’t consensual or sexual. But it’s OK if you ask. Or is it?

During away from home activities, boundaries get softer, we become more excited and open to new experiences. That’s why “what happens on tour stays on tour”. Think of that 13 year old girl who has a crush on her best girlfriend. But at camp she hits it off with a 17 year old trans girl – that’s a girl right? They hold hands as long as someone “asked to touch”. They share a bunk and see each other undressed. They shower at the same time. They can can have long and soulful conversations into the night, or even arrange to meet up after camp.

There is an enormous developmental difference between a 13 and 17 year old. It is wholly inappropriate for them to be undressed around one another. It is inappropriate for them to be having conversations about “rejecting compulsory hetersexuality” in a charged atmosphere away from their parents.

Camp Out is an activist incubator, nothing more. In service of creating more queer activists, the organisers happily do away with protecting the children in their care.

GRUNT & PASH: meet the women who want to remove gay men’s sexual boundaries

NOTE: GRUNT.org.au is archived by the wayback machine https://web.archive.org/web/20210307023129/https://www.grunt.org.au/


My last post was about ACON’s website for men who like to “party and play” – NSFW – New Video – How Hard is ACON’s Manual for Risky Sex. Today I’m looking at the ‘little sister’: GRUNT, and some of the women behind it.

GRUNT

Two of the “community partners” listed on that site (PASH and GRUNT) are for trans men. The PASH.tm project was founded in 2014 to raise awareness of sexual issues for ‘gay’ trans men. That is to say for straight women.

GRUNT is a project of the PASH.tm team. GRUNT is a website resource dedicated to shoe-horning women into the gay hookup scene. It is a copy of ACON’s HowHard website, dedicated to men who engage in drug-fueled “adventurous” sex. Strangely though while HowHard is proudly proclaimed as an ACON resource, GRUNT is more coy. It merely thanks Australian Federation of AIDS Organisations for support and funding.

Big brother – little sister

GRUNT mimics HowHard in a number of respects, not the least it’s visual style. The site is festooned with photos of nearly-naked men in flagrante. GRUNT tries hard to draw a visual link with the gay hookup scene.

What are the similarities between HowHard (for gay men) and GRUNT (for trans men)?

HowHard

  • Covers HIV prevention, prophylaxis and testing
  • Nude and near-nude fetish photography
  • Group sex images
  • Prep: Big focus on getting guys to take prep
  • Confusing messages: says both “piss play is safe” and also that urine carries gonorrhea.
HowHard

GRUNT

  • Covers HIV prevention, prophylaxis and testing
  • Nude and near-nude fetish photography
  • Group sex images
  • Prep: Big focus on getting women to take prep
  • Confusing messages: cautions that while most boys are douchine their ‘arse’ before sex, this may be dangerous, but may not be, but might be, and the decision is really up to you.
GRUNT

How do they differ?

HowHard

  • Sex talk: Detailed descriptions of kinky sex (I don’t mean spanking, I mean felching and piss-fking). Straight talk about f-king and cocks.
  • Drugs: Detailed information about drug use.
  • Safety: Tacks HIV-safety messages onto detailed descriptions of sex and drug use.

GRUNT

  • Sex talk: Doesn’t go into detail about sex or pleasure.
  • Drugs: Cautions that drugs can affect capacity to consent. “Sometimes people use alcohol or drugs to cope with the intense feelings of nervousness and low self-esteem
  • Safety: Focuses on safety, and fear of being exposed. “If you are hooking up with someone, and you’ve set it up from an app, let a mate know where you are going.”

What makes you a man is inside you, not what your body looks like.

GRUNT – Keep it hot

How about the gaslighting

Trans guys are just guys

Suggested response to a hookup disclosing trans status: still from animation hosted at GRUNT

In Australia, gaining sexual consent by deception is a crime. GRUNT take a “trans guys are just guys” line to the extent of suggesting you don’t need to disclose your sex to a new partner.

They suggest using a “script” like this that minimises and glosses over the impact of trans status.

“Hey bud, just so you know. I’m trans. That means I’ve got a bonus hole/front hole/extra hard cock to play with. Cool?”

GRUNT – Keep it hot

Being a female is not the same as a male with “a bonus hole/front hole/extra hard cock”. Women smell different, we feel different, we get aroused differently and we respond to sex differently. Gay men have a right to choose sex with other gay men.

Gay spaces are our spaces

GRUNT encourages women to go and hang out at the glory holes because it feels validating to be near gay men.

Don’t be afraid to go to that sex club and hang out at the glory holes the first few times. … it can be a very liberating and validating experience to be in these types of gay male spaces.

GRUNT – Keep it hot

In Australia, sex clubs and saunas will generally welcome trans guys on T (or at least not explicitly ban us). You don’t need to call and check, if you want to go – Go!

GRUNT – Keep it hot

PASH.tm (the group that created GRUNT) made a post on their Facebook page in April 2021 that the project had come out of hibernation to raise the alert about a gay male sauna using transphobic language. Wet on Wellington spa in Victoria put out a patron survey that wasn’t entirely trans-inclusive enough. PASH.tm called the troops and crafted a letter of demand.

Just don’t mention it

If you’re fisting or blowing someone, it may not be a thing worth mentioning. Don’t assume that he won’t be ok with it. 

GRUNT – Keep it hot

What makes you man anyway?

GRUNT assures women that ‘bottoming’ e.g. being penetrated, even being penetrated vaginally, doesn’t make them less of a man. Lots of really macho gay men are ‘bottoms’.

Bottoming in any of your holes does not make you less of a man, in fact some of the most macho cis guys are total bottoms.

GRUNT – Keep it hot

Language

The word “gay” appears only once in relation to the validation trans men get from being in gay male spaces. The site talks about cis-guys.

Where are they now?

The brains behind PASH.tm and GRUNT are co-chairs – Ted Cook and Jeremy Wiggins (Jez Pez) along with Aram Hosie – Laurie Hopkins – Max Mackenzie (MJ Beck) – Ethan Kristy

Now they’re driving the car

Teddy Cook (trans man) – now at ACON as Director, Community Health where she oversees client services, LGBTQ community health programs, Pride Training and Trans Health Equity.

Jeremy Wiggins (trans man) – Executive Officer at Transcend. This is the mother-son charity that worked tirelessly to remove the roadblocks preventing Australian children from accessing puberty blockers and wrong-sex hormones.

Aram Hosie (trans man) – Head of Strategic Communications at Victorian Equal Opportunity & Human Rights Commission

Laurie Hopkins (nb female) – seems to have gone to religion and is a motivational speaker. She was always more gender-fluid anyways.

Max Mackenzie (trans man) – Director of Resilience Enterprises, and named “rural trans activist of the year” in 2019 in Queensland. Not bad.

Ethan Kristy (trans man) – graduated from photographing lesbian orgies staged to look like gay male orgies, and went on to become an artist capturing the queer experience.

‘we can stop this drug, and your body goes back to how it would have been with no long-term consequences’ [reblog]

Reblogging this piece from another author. This text has been sent to Media Watch, the journalists who investigate our media. It is in regards to a special-interest piece by our dear national broadcaster about the Michelle Telfer who heads up Australia’s premier gender id clinic for children. Dr Telfer believes she can “give [a girl] a boy’s body”. Note the timecodes in ().


I’ve just sent this tip-off to Media Watch: ‘A Balancing Act’, Australian Story. ABC, 24/5/2021. This broadcast covers up and misrepresents what Dr Michelle Telfer did in 2014.

There are two issues here:

  • long-term consequences of puberty blockers
  • effect of puberty blockers on bone density

Long-term consequences

In 2014, Dr Tefler told the Langley family that if Isabelle decided to ‘go back to being Campbell’, ‘we can stop this drug, and your body goes back to how it would have been with no long-term consequences‘. This interaction was filmed and broadcast on 17 November 2014 in the episode ‘Being Me’, Four Corners, ABC (at 20:52).

The Langley family, and what Dr Telfer told them in 2014, feature again in ‘A Balancing Act’. However, she is presented as saying to them: ‘We can stop this drug, and your body goes back to how it would have been…’(at12:50). In other words, the phrase ‘with no long-term consequences’ has been cut out.

Of course this matters. It matters because of recent admissions that the long-term consequences of puberty blockers are unknown. See, for example, the amendments to advice about them made on the UK’s National Health Service website in June 2020.

https://www.transgendertrend.com/nhs-no-longer-puberty…/:

GONE is the claim that puberty blockers are considered to be fully reversible:

“The effects of treatment with GnRH analogues are considered to be fully reversible, so treatment can usually be stopped at any time after a discussion between you, your child and your MDT”.

NEW is the admission that long-term effects are unknown:

“Little is known about the long-term side effects of hormone or puberty blockers in children with gender dysphoria. Although the Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS) advises this is a physically reversible treatment if stopped, it is not known what the psychological effects may be. It’s also not known whether hormone blockers affect the development of the teenage brain or children’s bones. Side effects may also include hot flushes, fatigue and mood alterations.”

It is precisely the reason why the application of puberty blockers has been suspended in the UK, Sweden, and Finland. https://segm.org/Sweden_ends_use_of_Dutch_protocol

Effect on Bone Density

In the 2014 footage incorporated into ‘A Balancing Act’, a voiceover is interpolated of Dr Telfer saying: ‘Puberty blockers are reversible. The only risk is that it can affect your bone density’ (at 11:55). The vision accompanying this voiceover is of Dr Telfer speaking to the Langleys in 2014, such that, to an ordinary viewer, it appears that this was something she told them in 2014, and that was broadcast in the Four Corners episode ‘Being Me’.

Was it broadcast in ‘Being me’?

No it wasn’t. Was it something Dr Telfer told the Langleys in 2014, either off-camera or on-camera but edited out before broadcast in 2014? Possible, but highly unlikely, since the effect of puberty blockers on bone density was pretty much unknown at that time: https://www.bmj.com/content/366/bmj.l5647/rr-0https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7433770/

Conclusion

The hagiographic treatment accorded Dr Telfer in ‘A Balancing Act’ was enhanced by distorting her 2014 professional performance to make it look more nuanced and fact-based than it actually was. It surely isn’t, or shouldn’t be, the role of the ABC to misrepresent and cover up deficiencies in a high-profile featured subject’s professional performance in this way, particularly when it involves such a serious issue as gender dysphoria.


A sincere thank-you to the author for her analsys.

The Good Fairy Comes When You Are Older

Jazz Jennings, Transgender advocate and the most famous trans kid, came out to his parents at age two.

Here’s what he said to AC Nightline. Note the reaction from the interviewer.

Jazz Jennings

When I was 2 years old I went up to my mom and asked her “when is The Good Fairy going to come with her magic wand and change my penis into a vagina?” (ABC Nightline)

An actual 2 year old

What’s your name?

Dyay

How old are you?

Two!

What does your Dad do for a living?

Dada. Dada eew Dada. Niegha Dada!

(The Daily Davidsons)

Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person or group makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories. People experiencing gaslighting often feel confused, anxious, and unable to trust themselves.

Medical News Today

Jazz believes he asked at 2 that the Good Fairy would come and exchange his penis for a vagina. At an age where most children don’t yet have a grasp on word formation, let alone talking in fill sentences. At 2 it is common for children to talk in their “own language” of babbles.

He must have been an exceptionally advanced child.

Or his mother may be Ret-Conning the story. Jeanette Jennings says “we weren’t encouraging, we were supportive“.That way she can deny that she guided him his journey, both to the media and eventually to Jazz. If it turns out that this was a mistake, a decision taken too young, the Jennings parents can tell Jazz that it was all his idea. She won’t have to take responsibility for the way they committed a young child onto a pathway of living on a reality show, enacting ‘feminine’ stereotypes, taking drugs and undergoing multiple genital surgeries.

When asked if she’s a “Stage Mom” Jeanette Jennings makes it all about her. “I don’t enjoy being on television” she does it for the kids. Won’t somebody think of the children? But not the welfare of her own children.

Mum appears to be in charge, but Dad is fully on board with this gaslighting.

Stereotyping: An article in the American Sociological Review states that a person using gaslighting techniques may intentionally use negative stereotypes of a person’s gender, race, ethnicity, sexuality, nationality, or age to manipulate them. For example, they may tell a female that people will think she is irrational or crazy if she seeks help for abuse.

Medical News Today

Or they may tell a child they cannot play with stereotypical “girls” toys or that “boys don’t wear dresses”. Children trust their parents. The child wants to wear a dress, only girls wear dresses, so the child must be a girl. It’s logic you might expect from a child under 5. Guess what, these children are under 5.

Rather have a straight daughter than a gay son

Which 2 year old knows that a penis prevents them from playing with sparkly toys?

Which 2 year old knows that a penis can be swapped for a vagina?

Which child is told that they need to swap gender in order to wear what they want to wear and play with their toys?

This child – Son of Brandon Boulware

I did not let my child wear girl clothes … I did it to protect myself.

She asked me if she put on boy’s clothes could she go out to play.

My daughter was equating being good with being someone else.

We allowed her to be who she is – to grow her hair, to wear girl’s clothes.

Perhaps he picked up on the parental anxiety that “girl clothes” were inappropriate. Brandon had an escape plan that allowed his on to wear dresses and go play: he could become a she.

This Child – Kai Shappley

I thought this kid might be gay… Googling conversion therapy. … spanking her, really spanking her, for saying she’s a girl … my child was praying to die.

Perhaps because he gets beaten whenever he wants to play with girl toys, he insists he is a girl.

Mother, Kimberley Shappley, is another stage mom. Kai stars as the trans character in The Babysitter’s Club reboot for Netflix.

This Child – Jackie Green , Son of Susie Green (CEO of Mermaids)

I thought I had an effeminate, quite sensitive little boy who was probably gay.

But Jack’s Dad did not approve.

His mother went on to lead the UK’s foremost charity for ‘trans kids’, gaslighting parent’s and children into believing that wearing a dress makes a child ‘trans’.

The Good Fairy Comes When You Are Older

Think of Jazz Jennings, waiting to be old enough so the Good Fairy can come and take his penis away. He tells ABS Nightline that “confirmation surgery” is the final step in transition so he can finally be the woman he really is.

He seems tired.

Transing children is emotional abuse.

Me

Your homework, should you choose to accept it

Go and read this blog post about transing the gay away – An Unspeakable of the Oscar Wilde Sort