“The problem is that people like me are not in the frame”
Says transgender religious minister Josephine Inkpin, while IN THE FRAME OF AN ABC FILM CREW.
Oh the gaslighting!
“The problem is that people like me are not in the frame”
Says transgender religious minister Josephine Inkpin, while IN THE FRAME OF AN ABC FILM CREW.
Oh the gaslighting!
TransHub is a website owned and operated by ACON.
It was written in extreme haste by Teddy Cook and Liz Duck-Chong. Together they spent 6 months to get it off the ground. Who are they?
Teddy and Liz work for (or better still, they are) the ACON Trans Health Equity Unity.
Teddy is co-inventor of GRUNT, the website designed to bring women into gay male spaces. Liz is a writer and film maker and, “sexual health nerd”. Teddy seems to have done the hard yards working for ACON, but Liz’s qualifications aren’t readily available for some reason. Together they played on the team of trans activists who brought you lots of trans-research.
All gender affirming care must be inclusive, self-determined and rights-based.https://www.transhub.org.au/gatekeeping?rq=gatekeeping
Name another illness, condition or medical management pathway that is “rights-based” or “self-determined”.
One would be pregnancy and obstetric care. Where healthy women routinely submit to medical management to mitigate the risks of childbirth. Women have been fighting for (years, decades, centuries?) for self-determination and control in the labour room. Still we are medicated, ignored and mistreated.
The other is cosmetic surgery. A user-pays model ensures that the process is driven by the customer. This is what transgender care is: cosmetic alteration on demand. With a suicide threat thrown in for good measure.
The footnote index after “tragic consequences” lazily links to a list of sources rather than to the specific source for each claim. Item 1 on the list is a VIEWPOINT article written by TRANSGENDER ACTIVIST Florence Ashley.
There are 1 or 2 reasonable red flags embedded in this list. Delaying care without a clear reason is
|Refusing to take on trans or gender diverse patients and clients||Doctors can refuse to take patients they don’t feel equipped to handle. This is the essence of specialisation. |
Would you rather have a doctor who felt out of her depth, and forced into a care relationship, or a doctor who loved slicing off healthy breasts?
|Requiring unnecessary steps in order to access gender affirmation, eg. Mandating a psychiatrist or endocrinologist is assessment for all patients||If Transgender is not a mental disease, it is surely a mental viewpoint. Doctors would be doing malpractice if they started medically treating patients who didn’t have the condition being treated. |
Endocrinologists are specialists who deal in human hormones. They are the ones who manage hormone treatment. How is it a red flag for a doctor to send a hormone-requesting patient to a hormone-specialising doctor?
|Delaying gender affirming care without a clear health-based reason, or for reasons of “watchful waiting”, a well-established conversion practice||Delaying care without a reason sounds very fair. However “watchful waiting” isn’t delay of care. It is a specific form of non-medical care.|
|Not providing all the information or answers as to why a particular decisions has been made||Quite fair. Patients generally should have access to information about why decisions were made.|
|Requiring trans and gender diverse people to adopt a binary identity, or refusing to accept or learn about non-binary identities||This is just bizarre. “Refusing to learn about”. “Forcing to adopt”. How do they force you to adopt an identity? |
If you feel “forced” by your doctor to adopt an identity, you can choose another care provider.
|Requiring invasive and unnecessary examinations or testing in order to access care||This is quite fair. But it is now tinted by the previous items that seem to imply the patient should be the only one driving the medicalisation bus. At this point I wonder what constitutes an “invasive and unnecessary” examination or test. Since referring out to a specialist is seen as a medical red flag, what is it we are actually talking about here? |
My mind leaps to unnecessary genital contact, but do they actually mean routine blood work?
|Engaging in conversion or aversion therapy (or Gender Identity Change Efforts)||How does one perform gender identity conversion therapy? Tell a girl that her body is beautiful and unique and she will be an excellent engineer even without hormonal therapy?|
|Any discussion of ‘Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria’||This is the item that gives the game away. Any clinician who is interested in their patients will make the link between a teen girl who is the 4th in her friend group to declare a trans identity and Lisa Littman’s research on ROGD. |
This is the cutting-edge science. It’s the science they don’t want you to know about because it casts their beloved transgender identities as vapid trend-based stereotypes.
|Over-inflation of regret rates||And how, oh how, would the patient know what the regret was was? Despite all efforts to blank out this evidence, there ARE regretters, desisters, detransitioners. Famously, Walt Heyer’s website https://sexchangeregret.com/ receives multiple emails a day from people who change their minds. |
TransHub want us to believe that gatekeeping is dangerous. They want us to believe that gatekeeping is a defined set of behaviours. However many of their red flags can be explained as something else (such as not wanting to take on a complex patient) or as due diligence (referring to a specialist).
TransHub’s list of gatekeeping behaviours is designed to cast suspicion on any medical practices that might result in a patient hearing a “no” or a “wait” or a “I think there might be other problems to deal with”.
This list is designed to open the express route to a medical pathway. it benefits the over-eager patient, it benefits the pharmaceutical company and it benefits the surgeon.
It does not put the need for holistic care front and centre.
NOTE: GRUNT.org.au is archived by the wayback machine https://web.archive.org/web/20210307023129/https://www.grunt.org.au/
My last post was about ACON’s website for men who like to “party and play” – NSFW – New Video – How Hard is ACON’s Manual for Risky Sex. Today I’m looking at the ‘little sister’: GRUNT, and some of the women behind it.
Two of the “community partners” listed on that site (PASH and GRUNT) are for trans men. The PASH.tm project was founded in 2014 to raise awareness of sexual issues for ‘gay’ trans men. That is to say for straight women.
GRUNT is a project of the PASH.tm team. GRUNT is a website resource dedicated to shoe-horning women into the gay hookup scene. It is a copy of ACON’s HowHard website, dedicated to men who engage in drug-fueled “adventurous” sex. Strangely though while HowHard is proudly proclaimed as an ACON resource, GRUNT is more coy. It merely thanks Australian Federation of AIDS Organisations for support and funding.
GRUNT mimics HowHard in a number of respects, not the least it’s visual style. The site is festooned with photos of nearly-naked men in flagrante. GRUNT tries hard to draw a visual link with the gay hookup scene.
What are the similarities between HowHard (for gay men) and GRUNT (for trans men)?
In Australia, gaining sexual consent by deception is a crime. GRUNT take a “trans guys are just guys” line to the extent of suggesting you don’t need to disclose your sex to a new partner.
They suggest using a “script” like this that minimises and glosses over the impact of trans status.
“Hey bud, just so you know. I’m trans. That means I’ve got a bonus hole/front hole/extra hard cock to play with. Cool?”GRUNT – Keep it hot
Being a female is not the same as a male with “a bonus hole/front hole/extra hard cock”. Women smell different, we feel different, we get aroused differently and we respond to sex differently. Gay men have a right to choose sex with other gay men.
GRUNT encourages women to go and hang out at the glory holes because it feels validating to be near gay men.
Don’t be afraid to go to that sex club and hang out at the glory holes the first few times. … it can be a very liberating and validating experience to be in these types of gay male spaces.GRUNT – Keep it hot
In Australia, sex clubs and saunas will generally welcome trans guys on T (or at least not explicitly ban us). You don’t need to call and check, if you want to go – Go!GRUNT – Keep it hot
PASH.tm (the group that created GRUNT) made a post on their Facebook page in April 2021 that the project had come out of hibernation to raise the alert about a gay male sauna using transphobic language. Wet on Wellington spa in Victoria put out a patron survey that wasn’t entirely trans-inclusive enough. PASH.tm called the troops and crafted a letter of demand.
If you’re fisting or blowing someone, it may not be a thing worth mentioning. Don’t assume that he won’t be ok with it.GRUNT – Keep it hot
GRUNT assures women that ‘bottoming’ e.g. being penetrated, even being penetrated vaginally, doesn’t make them less of a man. Lots of really macho gay men are ‘bottoms’.
Bottoming in any of your holes does not make you less of a man, in fact some of the most macho cis guys are total bottoms.GRUNT – Keep it hot
The word “gay” appears only once in relation to the validation trans men get from being in gay male spaces. The site talks about cis-guys.
The brains behind PASH.tm and GRUNT are co-chairs – Ted Cook and Jeremy Wiggins (Jez Pez) along with Aram Hosie – Laurie Hopkins – Max Mackenzie (MJ Beck) – Ethan Kristy
Teddy Cook (trans man) – now at ACON as Director, Community Health where she oversees client services, LGBTQ community health programs, Pride Training and Trans Health Equity.
Jeremy Wiggins (trans man) – Executive Officer at Transcend. This is the mother-son charity that worked tirelessly to remove the roadblocks preventing Australian children from accessing puberty blockers and wrong-sex hormones.
Aram Hosie (trans man) – Head of Strategic Communications at Victorian Equal Opportunity & Human Rights Commission
Laurie Hopkins (nb female) – seems to have gone to religion and is a motivational speaker. She was always more gender-fluid anyways.
Ethan Kristy (trans man) – graduated from photographing lesbian orgies staged to look like gay male orgies, and went on to become an artist capturing the queer experience.
Let’s start back in 1919. Charlie Chaplin, who would become one of the most famous and celebrated movie stars of all time, was 29 when he married 16 year old aspiring actress Mildred Harris. Their marriage only lasted 2 years. In 1924, Chaplin repeated the pattern with another 16 year old, Lita Gray. He met Lita when she was just 6 and began taking her on dates around the age of 12.
1954 — Sam Cooke meets a 12-year old Aretha Franklin and brings her to his hotel room. Before her father interrupted, Aretha said the conversation “took another turn.”
In 1957, 23 year old Jerry Lee Lewis married his cousin, 13 year old Myra Brown. She still believed in Santa.
Also in 1957, 16 year old Anna Mae Bullock met 24 year old Ike Turner. He quickly took her into his band, helped make her a star, and began to treat the newly christened “Tina” as if he owned her. They married 6 years later. Tina once wrote that she was afraid not to accept his proposal.
In 1959, Elvis Presley met his future wife. He was 25 and she was 14. They stayed in touch via phone and letters for the next 2 1/2 years. At that time, Elvis took her on a drug romp to Vegas, followed by moving her into his Graceland mansion. They didn’t marry until 1967. While both parties claimed that Priscilla was a virgin on her wedding night, biographer Susan Finstad makes a strong case that this could not be true. Priscilla herself has admitted that she & Elvis slept in the same bed and that Elvis “taught (her) other ways to please him.” Elvis reportedly had a predeliction for 14 year old girls, both before and after his marriage to Priscilla.
Chuck Berry was arrested and found guilty of transporting an underage girl across state lines for immoral purposes, spending two years in jail in 1960.
In 1969, Sable Starr, queen of the so-called “baby groupies”, had a brief relationship with Iggy Pop. She was 13. He later wrote a song about it. Starr had sexual relationships with many other band members, including encouters with David Bowie, Mick Jagger, and Rod Stewart.
It’s 1972 and Rock stars are still having sex with little girls and everyone knows it, but no one does anything about it. Lori Mattix tells of losing her virginity at age 14 to David Bowie. She went on to start “dating” Led Zeppelin’s Jimmy Page that same year, a relationsihp that began when Page’s manager kidnapped her and brought her to Jimmy’s hotel room. Page kept Lori essentially locked up in his house for most of their 18 months together. The “baby groupie” also reports a sexual relationship with Mick Jagger when she was just 17.
In 1973, married singer Marvin Gaye met and pursued 17 year old Janis Hunter. He wrote “Let’s Get it On” as a tribute to his lust for her. Marvin took his teen date to dinner shortly after they met, where he bribed the waiter to bring her alcohol, then had sex with her later that night. They had a baby by the time she was 18, and married in 1977. The marriage lasted just 3 years.
In 1975, Steven Tyler purchased the guardianship of a 16 year old girl (Julia Holcomb) from her mother when he was 27 so that he could legally take her with him across state lines while he was on tour.
In 1978, Ted Nugent also purchases the guardianship of a teenager from her parents. He was 30, Pele Massa was 17. Years later, Ted reportedly received oral sex from a 12 year old Courtney Love.
March 10, 1977. One of the most well-known cases. Director Roman Polanski drugs and rapes 13 year old Samantha Gailey. Allowed to plead guilty to a lesser charge, Polanski nevertheless fled to France before sentencing and remains exiled from the United States. He has not been exiled, however, from Hollywood and continues to make movies and win awards to this day.
Eagles drummer and vocalist Don Henley was arrested in 1980 in Los Angeles after paramedics were called to his home to save a naked 16-year-old girl who was overdosing on cocaine and Quaaludes.
Colored over as a a “grand romance” and a “decades long relationship”, Celine Dion was 12 years old when 38 year old Rene Angelil became her manager. They went public with their relationship when she was 19.
n 1984, Rolling Stones bassist Bill Wyman started dating Mandy Smith. She was 13. Although they did not marry until she was 18, Mandy says she was 14 when they first had sex. Mr. Wyman has never been investigated, much less prosecuted.
Red Hot Chili Peppers’ lead Anthony Kiedis readily admits to having sex with a 14 year old girl when he was 23. According to him, once he confirmed her age he “had sex with her again.” In 1986, the 24-year old musician began dating 16 year old Ione Skye.
In 1990, 16 year old Mayte Garcia’s mother sent a video of her belly-dancing to Prince. He arranged to meet her, confirmed she was 16 and a year later moved her into his house. When she was 19, he initiated a sexual relationshi by informing her it was time to go on birth control. They married when she was 22 and he was 37. Before Mayte, Prince met “Anna Fantastic” when she was 15. At 17, she moved into his compound where they had a two year long relationship.
In 1991, 32 year old director Luc Besson met and eventually married model Maïwenn Le Besco when she was 15. Their relationship inspired his movie Léon: The Professional (1994), which followed an emotional relationship between an adult man and a young girl.
In 1993, Jerry Seinfeld picked up a high school student in a public park. He was 39 and she was 17. He and Shoshanna Lonstein dated for four years — through her college years.
Also in 1993, MC Ren of N.W.A. was accused of raping and impregnating a 16 year old girl in the group’s tour bus. The case never went to trial, however a paternity test showed that he was the father of the girl’s baby.
Noted pedophile R Kelley secretly married R&B singer Aaliyah in 1994 when she was 15 and he was 27. They met when she was 12 and he later helped write and produce her first album — “Age Ain’t Nothing but a Number.”
In 1995, teen star Brandy (age 16) started dating 21-year-old Boyz II Men member Wanya Morris. Keeping their relationship under wraps due to her age proved too stressful for the couple and they broke up soon after.
In 1997, Woody Allen should have become notorious when he married his de facto step-daughter. Though she was 21 at the time of the wedding, the two met when she 8. No matter the spin, the facts are stark. This wasn’t the only time Allen dated a much younger woman. Actress Babi Christina Engelhardt began a years-long love affair with Allen when she was 16 and he was 41. When Allen was 42, he romanced 17-year-old actress and high school senior Stacey Nelkin.
It’s the early-mid 2000s and “That 70s Show” actor, Wilmer Valderrama, continues to date teenage girls in an effort to deny that he is now over 30. He dated 16-year-old Mandy Moore despite being four years her senior. At age 24, Valderrama dated 17-year-old Lindsay Lohan though they kept the relationship a secret until her 18th birthday in 2004. In 2010, the 30-year-old began dating 17-year-old Demi Lovato.
In 2001, Fast & Furious star Paul Walker (28 at the time) was dating 16-year old Aubrianna Atwell. This was not Paul’s last time to date a teenager. His girlfriend at the time of his death, Jasmine Pilchard-Gosnell, was 23 to his 40. They met when she was 16.
Back in 2004, 26 year old Joel Madden and Hilary Duff did the familiar dance of being “just friends” until her 18th birthday in 2006. When asked about whether she was intimate with Madden or not in a 2015 interview with Cosmopolitan, Duff stated, “I had a 26-year-old boyfriend. So everyone can make their own assumptions about what I was doing.”
In 2005, clean cut TV heartthrob Chad Michael Murray begins dating a girl in high school. They get engaged when she turns 18 and Murray calls her a “little sweetheart” and says they have been together “for awhile.”
Similarly, in 2006, co-stars Hayden Panettiere and Milo Ventimiglia began dating. She was 17. He was 12 years her senior.
Actor Doug Hutchison married 16-year-old Courtney Stodden in 2011, when he was 51 years old. The dysfunctional pair became famous as reality stars, with Courtney undergoing extensive plastic surgery to maintain their image.
Rapper Tyga and Kylie Jenner began “hanging out” an awful lot beginning in 2014 when she was 16 and he was 24. They dated on and off after that, though they became a lot more openly “on” after her 18th birthday in 2016.
In late 2018, 44 year old Leonardo DiCaprio publicly reveals that he is dating 21 year old model Camilla Morrone. It’s not the age gap that puts Leo on our list, it’s the fact that he’s known Camilla since she was 11.
2018 — 14 year old Millie Bobby Brown innocently revealed that rapper, Drake, age 31, has been close friends with her, for the last year giving her advice about boys. He texts her, “I miss you.” This is the same Drake who has, more than once, skated around that “just friends until she turns 18” line — most recently with 18 year old model Bella Harris.
Guys, this isn’t a friendship. This is GROOMING. No one will stop it. They’ll “date.” He’ll have sex with her, probably in a couple of years. No one will care because he’s a man and a star.
NO ONE WILL CARE UNLESS WE START MAKING PEOPLE CARE.
Make them care. No free passes. No 2nd chances. A ruined career is the least they deserve. It’s not cute. THIS IS NOT OK.
“If you need help exiting the cult…“
Oh the irony!
All the comments and reactions are variants of “good luck with that mate” because we aren’t homophobic, xenophobic, transphobic and whatever else we’re accused of.
The worst you’ll find is women who are repelled by men in dresses arguing with women who don’t kind so much.
Or some disagreement about whether the “true trans” is a real thing.
Lots of newly peaked women freaking out and finding their bearings.
Dog whistle politics is where you say seemingly reasonable things which are a cipher for your truly regressive and oppressive politics. The wider public trust your “moderate” approach and your base still understands that you are with their extreme interests.
“Family values” is a good example. Does this mean more schools or does this mean ban homosexuality? It could mean both. An audible message and an inaudible “dog whistle” second meaning.
With a little enquiry, it is possible to find out whether a dog whistle is in play.
So what’s the GC dog whistle? You have to ask that question. An accusation of dog whistle politics is an accusation that you are a liar.
YOU have to challenge this accusation wherever it occurs. Ask “what is the deeper meaning?”
It won’t take long to uncover their lies and lazy arguments. There’s no hidden meaning. Men are not women. No child is born in the wrong body. There’s nothing wrong with being a lesbian.
Gender is harmful.
Jazz Jennings, Transgender advocate and the most famous trans kid, came out to his parents at age two.
Here’s what he said to AC Nightline. Note the reaction from the interviewer.
When I was 2 years old I went up to my mom and asked her “when is The Good Fairy going to come with her magic wand and change my penis into a vagina?” (ABC Nightline)
What’s your name?
How old are you?
What does your Dad do for a living?
Dada. Dada eew Dada. Niegha Dada!
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person or group makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories. People experiencing gaslighting often feel confused, anxious, and unable to trust themselves.Medical News Today
Jazz believes he asked at 2 that the Good Fairy would come and exchange his penis for a vagina. At an age where most children don’t yet have a grasp on word formation, let alone talking in fill sentences. At 2 it is common for children to talk in their “own language” of babbles.
He must have been an exceptionally advanced child.
Or his mother may be Ret-Conning the story. Jeanette Jennings says “we weren’t encouraging, we were supportive“.That way she can deny that she guided him his journey, both to the media and eventually to Jazz. If it turns out that this was a mistake, a decision taken too young, the Jennings parents can tell Jazz that it was all his idea. She won’t have to take responsibility for the way they committed a young child onto a pathway of living on a reality show, enacting ‘feminine’ stereotypes, taking drugs and undergoing multiple genital surgeries.
When asked if she’s a “Stage Mom” Jeanette Jennings makes it all about her. “I don’t enjoy being on television” she does it for the kids. Won’t somebody think of the children? But not the welfare of her own children.
Mum appears to be in charge, but Dad is fully on board with this gaslighting.
Stereotyping: An article in the American Sociological Review states that a person using gaslighting techniques may intentionally use negative stereotypes of a person’s gender, race, ethnicity, sexuality, nationality, or age to manipulate them. For example, they may tell a female that people will think she is irrational or crazy if she seeks help for abuse.Medical News Today
Or they may tell a child they cannot play with stereotypical “girls” toys or that “boys don’t wear dresses”. Children trust their parents. The child wants to wear a dress, only girls wear dresses, so the child must be a girl. It’s logic you might expect from a child under 5. Guess what, these children are under 5.
Which 2 year old knows that a penis prevents them from playing with sparkly toys?
Which 2 year old knows that a penis can be swapped for a vagina?
Which child is told that they need to swap gender in order to wear what they want to wear and play with their toys?
I did not let my child wear girl clothes … I did it to protect myself.
She asked me if she put on boy’s clothes could she go out to play.
My daughter was equating being good with being someone else.
We allowed her to be who she is – to grow her hair, to wear girl’s clothes.
Perhaps he picked up on the parental anxiety that “girl clothes” were inappropriate. Brandon had an escape plan that allowed his on to wear dresses and go play: he could become a she.
I thought this kid might be gay… Googling conversion therapy. … spanking her, really spanking her, for saying she’s a girl … my child was praying to die.
Perhaps because he gets beaten whenever he wants to play with girl toys, he insists he is a girl.
Mother, Kimberley Shappley, is another stage mom. Kai stars as the trans character in The Babysitter’s Club reboot for Netflix.
I thought I had an effeminate, quite sensitive little boy who was probably gay.
But Jack’s Dad did not approve.
His mother went on to lead the UK’s foremost charity for ‘trans kids’, gaslighting parent’s and children into believing that wearing a dress makes a child ‘trans’.
Think of Jazz Jennings, waiting to be old enough so the Good Fairy can come and take his penis away. He tells ABS Nightline that “confirmation surgery” is the final step in transition so he can finally be the woman he really is.
He seems tired.
Go and read this blog post about transing the gay away – An Unspeakable of the Oscar Wilde Sort