Sex Change Regret dot Com: your child is not transgender

People change their minds.

The dominant ideology is that when someone says they are trans, then they are trans. The first sign of being trans is questioning whether you might be trans. A pamphlet written “for and by” trans youth advises “a cis-gendered person will get up ready to walk out the door without really thinking about their gender and how the world see their gender”. They’ve clearly never met a woman going to a smart-casual lunch who agonises whether her clothes are too flirty or too frigid; or a man who just simply likes pink but leaves his pink shirt on the hangar in favour of blue, khaki, black and grey.

I Think I Might be Transgender – A booklet made by and for transgender
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Published by The Gender Centre who receive funding from Sydney Local Area Health District & and the Department of Communities and Justice

This material calls out to children who notice gender. It separates them from cis-gendered parents and supposedly normal people. It puts the cis in a box labelled “others”. Forming relationships and separating a child from their supports is a classic early grooming technique.

It is normal for 3 year olds to assume a gender

Around age 3-5 children feel a strong urge to associated with others like themselves. The child sees gender and knows only girls wear pink. Wanting to wear pink, they are told “only girls wear pink”, so perhaps the boy is really a girl. Parents report strongly gendered behaviour in children of this age. It’s normal and it goes away again.

In 2016 Huffpost published an article by Jenni Fuchs entitled 8 Things Not to Say to Boys Who Love Pink. She starts with “Unnecessary gender stereotyping of children is a topic that always generates discussion, and recently, the boys’ side of the debate has been making itself heard more ― namely that it’s okay to like pink if you are a boy.

This is a measured response to gendered behaviour: pink is just pink. Unlink pink from sex.

Up to about 12, the physical difference in boys and girls is minimal. A child can reasonably assume that being the opposite sex is about clothes and activities. They do not yet know about menstruation, sexual desire, rampant inappropriately-timed erections and sweaty palms.

Gender ideologues want to strongly link pink to sex.

A 2016 article How to know if your child is transgender, according to an expert punches hard from the start: “Anti-transgender parents can damage their children — potentially for life”. It goes on to tell parents to take seriously any behaviours that deviate from “gender assigned at birth”, particularly a desire to go to school in a dress or cut off a penis. Instead of counselling a child who wants to amputate their penis, the article suggests seeking a doctor who affirms the child’s belief that this will turn them into a girl.

We have returned to Freud’s outdated image of females as simply neutered males.

Why does a child instinctively know they are born in the wrong body?

Yes that is why not how. The how is constructed. Children know they are born in the wrong body because of one reason: they are told so.

But why are they told so?

Because of Sissy Porn. Sissy Porn, also called “Forced Feminisation Porn” is often cited as a factor by males who develop autogynephilia. Love of the woman within. It sounds a bit kinky and it is. Sissy Porn features hypnotic imagery, and scenarios where males are forced to debase themselves either by women or men, forced to become female, subjugated to cock and even magically become pregnant.

The other males people tend to become trans is to be more accepted as homosexuals. In his video Shame, ContraPoints discusses his sexual journey. From uncomfortably feminine gay man, to uncomfortably fuckable trans woman, eventually finding his true self as a lesbian when he falls in love with … a trans woman. He’s found a way to be homosexual and accept his homosexuality by feminising it and removing it from his bodily identity. Sounds self-shaming.

But a child knows neither shame nor pornography. If a child declares they are trans, then this desire is pure. It is innate. The child washes clean the shame and kinky stink of transition. A child knows nothing of the consequences to this declaration.

At age 13, Jazz Jennings had no idea that at age 20 he would be the survivor of more than 4 genital surgeries and so fed up as to declare “I know I’ve already lost the aesthetics”. Going into his surgery he stated clearly that he had never had sexual sensation and had no idea what he might be losing.

A child like Jazz is an invaluable weapon against anyone who questions the trans narrative. “I always knew”. When you say “but… sissy porn, but internalised homophobia” they pull out Jazz Jennings who was “always trans” and who is so publicised that he cannot quit being trans.

Children are told to transition in two ways. Firstly, because they are told that linking pink makes a boy into a girl; secondly because they are told their sexed bodies are available for abuse.

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This video is a well-spent 13 minutes of your time.

Walter Heyer has been transgender or living with the consequences of detransition since 1944. He saw the rise of early transgender starlets like Christine Jorgensen who transitioned in the early 50s. Jorgensen’s wikipedia article links to 7 contemporaneous male to female transgender celebrities. So it’s fair to say that trans was on the cultural map when Walter Heyer was a teen.

“I lived 8 years as a female named Laura Jensen after undergoing gender reassignment surgery in April of 1983. I started as a 4 year old kid in 1944”.

Walt Heyer is an author and public speaker who formerly identified as transgender.

He has some powerful statements, born out of pain. He acknowledges that he burned down his marriage and career. He acknowledges He was influenced by his doctor who literally wrote the book on transgender health, and who was wrong about him. He was influenced early in life by family members who dressed him in dresses to be like a girl. “I became addicted to the attention and the affirmation”.

Walter is a straight-talking 80 year old who knows what’s up. “The moment you affirm that person, you are telling them there is something wrong with them. That is child abuse.

We tell kids there is something wrong with them

Walter didn’t transition simply because Grandma put him in a dress. He was sexually abused as a young person. He was called a liar by his family, demolishing his self-esteem and family supports. He hears this story over and over again when people contact him through his website sexchangeregret.com

Over 50% of the hundreds of people who contact Walter have been sexually abused.

In 2011 Nature.com were able to publish a study that found high rates of child abuse in male to female transgender people. The 2019 Swedish documentary The Trans Train (vol 1, vol 2) clearly documents the link between gender dysphoria and anorexia and self-harm. Gender HQ breaks it down here. Children look for solutions for their real or even imagined problems. To transition is to cross a divide. To move toward a future.

To transition away from a past

In 1990, after extensive surgery and living as a woman for 8 years, Walter Heying was able to detransition with the help of psychotherapy. Extensive psychotherapy. What he asks people now is “tell me what happened to make you not want to be who you are” and 100% of the time there is an answer.

People change their minds.